When will a male realise sex is not just about him?
Disclosure: I want to say sorry to all of my gay friends for insulting your gender, my mother, mother-in-law and women who have just given birth to males.
This is not an attack but purely the beginnings of an intervention.
From an early age I knew that there were very distinct differences between males and females but not all of them very understandable.
The ones that were: All males enjoy breasts- no matter what age they are and they all have issues with their mothers which will surface in any relationship.
The ones I can’t explain: Why men feel that it is their given right to orgasm during sex. That is all.
I have tried to answer this question over many years and the one dominating answer which I receive: Men have larger libidos than women.
Study after study has suggested that this is true, but I am not here to talk about studies instead I want to hear about this topic from women of different ages.
A few weeks ago I was out having a drink with a few girlfriends who I have met travelling. Our ages range from early twenties to mid-forties. After a bottle or two of the finest Indonesian wine we realised we all had an endless supply of stories about the ‘selfish-sex-male’. Yes we gave it a name.
I told them this story: Men, on average, take up to 4 minutes from point of entry to ejaculation but women can take up to 10 to 11 minutes to reach their first, and sometimes only, orgasm (a handy piece of information to know).
There is quite a difference in time between these two, especially when a man dismounts after he is done and leaves you wondering where that extra 6 or 7 minutes went.
I have read articles in the past where it states the woman needs to be in both a relaxed and excited state at the same time in order to receive maximum pleasure.
So how could a woman possibly be in two states at the same time when her partner is racing to the finish line?
Orgasmic bliss is a sure thing for males and we all understand that it needs to be regular and after discussing this blog post with my partner he showed me how a male can prove his worth.
“Be honest with your partner in bed, or wherever it is you romp, no judgement.
“In the end it is females who have the last laugh: They can orgasm more than once during sex.”
On a side-note for those women who have never had an orgasm before I suggest ditching your man and buying an electronic device to see you through those 10 to 11 minutes- but trust me, with one of those you won’t need all of those minutes.
Louise Jeckells
A girl who believes desire originates between the ears instead of between the legs.
Here at Hypoxi HQ we are a little bit delirious – having spent the better part of our Summer working days, wading our way through the wonders of beauty – we’ve flexed our creative muscles, lost a few brain cells and decided that Renaissance women knew a thing or two about the dark side of beauty.
One hundred years from now – I wonder if we will be in awe at our desire to insert plastic and botox into our precious skin?
Regardless – this video has had us laughing every step of the way. We hope it is as funny and enlightening for you!
Share the love -see what your friends think – have we made progress or simply regressed?
Here at Hypoxi and Femme Files, we love a good source of inspiration. Today, we signed up for Pinterest, which is in short, a social media platform that allows users to create ‘moodboards’ consisting of images of people, places or things that inspire them.
After only a couple of hours into it, we have become slightly addicted. Not only are you able to create your own moodboards, but you are also allowed to browse through thousands of other users’ ‘pins’ and ‘moodboards’, ultimately leaving your urge for inspiration completely satisfied.
So far, we have set up four moodboards called:
Beautiful Bodies We Love
Healthy Food We Love
Man’s Best Friends
Inspirational Quotes We Love
So, if you love any of the above things as much as we do (let’s face it – who doesn’t love cute and fluffy animals?), be sure to check out our moodboards on the Hypoxi Pinterest page.
Also, if you have any requests for specific moodboards, please let us know so we can get one cracking to fulfill your inspirational needs!
It’s Friday and I know how hard it is to siphon through your emails and be randomly inspired via my somewhat random thoughts….
As a result I thought I would share with you this hilarious anecdote to advertising.
I don’t know about you, but I am a sucker for a good piece of photo shop. Be it humbling or reality biting, it just makes me feel that everyone’s a little less than perfect. (That’s me included!) Indeed I remember a radio interview with Sophie Monk where she was asked about being nervous posing nude for some sordid male mag…her response? Well she knew there was no need for nerves because of the wonders of photo shop. So reassuring. I only wish I could do this to half of the photos I’ve been tagged on Facebook with!
Regardless, here is to a Happy Friday, a wonderful weekend and I hope you enjoy this as much as I enjoyed it. If anyone else has cracking examples of food that fails to visually impress I would love to hear your thoughts!…I’m thinking a kebab should have been there…
Right now though, I am off to send this link to my partner in crime. See what he thinks now of his Big Mac.
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