Let’s Play A Love Game
9posted 31st January, 2011 under The Bottom Drawer.
He calls you 10 times a day. Sometimes you miss the call, forgetting to call him back. Sometimes you don’t even answer at all because something more important is going on. Yet, the minute you don’t hear from him, you go into a frenzy, calling him incessantly, never letting your telephone leave your sight… Sound familiar?
Of course it does. Because without even realizing, you want what you can’t have. You want the chase. Don’t worry… you’re not alone. Wanting what you can’t have is a fundamental, human feeling that no one is immune from. And it’s been happening since humans have ever lived and loved. The psychology behind this behaviour boils down to one word: challenge. If something is too easily obtained, it doesn’t have the same reward or value as it would had it been difficult. It’s the hunter-predator instinct within us.
Ok, this makes sense if you’re out fishing. You appreciate the catch that took you hours to reel in, making that fishy delight all the more enjoyable to eat. Though I don’t mean to compare love and relationships to a stinky recreational activity, does the same apply?
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